“We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.”
John stood there in shock, feeling the hurricane of his wife Rita’s words. His mind raced to make sense of the sudden storm that had erupted between them. One minute, they were discussing weekend plans; the next, her face had transformed with an anger he couldn’t comprehend. They stood locked in confusion—Rita was certain she was responding to a real threat, while John was bewildered by an attack that seemed to come from nowhere.
What had he said? What invisible tripwire had he unwittingly crossed?
This is how unhealed wounds from the past operate—they damage relationships in the present.
Today, I want to give you one simple step to jump-start your journey toward a life of freedom through inner healing. I’ll also offer you a challenge at the end.
Our minds filter everything through the lens of past experiences—both good and bad. We carry our hurts in secret, and they quietly affect every part of us: spirit, soul, and body.
“If You Don’t Heal What Hurt You
You’ll Bleed On People Who Didn’t Cut You.”
Perhaps that scene with John and Rita resonated with you. It certainly described me. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I bled on someone and had no idea why or how it happened. Plenty of past ugliness had made its home in me and continued to wreak havoc on my present life.
Here was the disconnect—I was a Christian. My life was supposed to be full of love and joy. Worse yet, many of my Christian friends were also living a disconnected life and hiding it. Being saved does not necessarily equate to being free.
Years ago, I was mentoring someone, but we just couldn’t make any spiritual progress. She would take three steps forward and four steps back. I was totally frustrated. I loved her dearly, and I saw that she genuinely wanted to change. So I said to the Lord, I’ll do whatever You say to help her.
His answer was unexpected. In effect, He said, I need to cut your chains first.
That was the beginning of a journey of inner healing and deliverance that completely and utterly changed my life.
One Simple Step to Jump-Start Your Healing
But first, I want to challenge you to acknowledge your fear about inner healing. Here’s my definition of inner healing, and you’ll hear me use it often:
“Inner healing is the shedding of old baggage that has accumulated through your life and generational experiences. It is a deep cleansing act—a sort of power saw that shears off all that has held you back. This happens through Christ’s illuminating light.”
I made a choice to put myself on His path and get delivered. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I learned a long time ago to feel the fear and do it anyway.
My desire to help someone else overrode my fear. God had taught me that bravery is a discipline, not a trait. My thought was, When I am free, then I can enable the Lord to advance His Kingdom and help cut the chains of others through me.
The Trigger Tracking Exercise
1. Grab a piece of paper and carry it with you. If you’re like me, you can use your phone and send yourself a text message.
2. Every time you notice yourself being triggered—whether by a situation, a comment, or even your own thoughts—make a hash mark. At the end of the day, review your marks. This simple exercise will give you a clearer idea of how often you encounter emotional triggers. How many hash marks did you log today?
3. If you want to get even more out of this, write down what you think triggered each reaction.
Why Is This Exercise So Powerful?
✅ It locks you into the present moment, and the present moment is where Jesus is.
✅ “Awareness is authority.” When you become aware, you are faced with the possibility of change.
Over the years, I have watched people use these simple steps to catapult their spiritual walk to the next level, and I can assure you—it will work for you.
Now, take a deep breath and make the choice to put yourself on the path to becoming healed and whole.
Stop arguing for your baggage and limitations—they’re weighing you down.
If you are bound and want to stay wounded or stuck in your mess, you are being selfish, and that is not a Kingdom quality. That was blunt, but Jesus was blunt. To live the life of Christ is to be intolerant of selfishness.
If I’ve offended you, then you need to be delivered from your offendedness—it’s not a Kingdom trait! And just maybe, from what I’ve written, you’ll want to talk to the Lord about your fears and realign your desires with His.
Q: What’s holding you back from inner healing and advancing the Kingdom in your life and in others?
Hello, I’m Laura G, co-founder of B Significant. Our Mandate Is to Reject Religiosity And Reclaim Spirituality Through Divine Inner Healing And Revolutionary Mentoring.
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